nvme-rdma: use NVME_CTRL_CONNECTING state to mark init process

In order to avoid concurrent error recovery during initialization
process (allowed by the NVME_CTRL_NEW --> NVME_CTRL_RESETTING transition)
we must mark the ctrl as CONNECTING before initial connection
establisment.

Signed-off-by: Max Gurtovoy <maxg@mellanox.com>
Reviewed-by: James Smart <james.smart@broadcom.com>
Signed-off-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>