IB/rdmavt, IB/qib, IB/hfi1: Use new QP put get routines

This improves readability and hides the reference count
mechanism from the client drivers.

Reviewed-by: Dennis Dalessandro <dennis.dalessandro@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Mike Marciniszyn <mike.marciniszyn@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Dennis Dalessandro <dennis.dalessandro@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>