IB/rdmavt: Add functions to get and release QP references

This centralizes the function and improves code readability.

Reviewed-by: Dennis Dalessandro <dennis.dalessandro@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Mike Marciniszyn <mike.marciniszyn@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Dennis Dalessandro <dennis.dalessandro@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>