Improve lifecycle of ZenModeFragment & friends

* Don't keep Settings observers longer than start-stop.
* Only call updateState() once on controllers during create->start->resume.
* Remove some duplicate controller update methods from ZenModesFragmentBase (we can directly call DashboardFragment's).
* Don't update controllers if unrelated modes were changed.
* Extract ZenSettingsObserver for use in the link tile later.
* Add tests.

Fixes: 353946788
Test: atest com.android.settings.notification.modes
Flag: android.app.modes_ui
Change-Id: I64b51714d699b5c3a592a76fcb615d2999998829