Use topology listener to detect changes

If some other app or the system changes the topology, we detect it and
refresh the topology pane. If the listener reports a topology that we
just applied, do not actually refresh the pane.

Flag: com.android.settings.flags.display_topology_pane_in_display_list
Bug: b/352650922
Test: atest DisplayTopologyPreferenceTest.kt
Test: with added logs, verify that a detach and re-attach w/o new topology does not cause a full refresh
Change-Id: Iecf50d563b430755c93bee5a1ff54f3f3d6eb3da