Use waitForDeclaredService to get Lights HAL

We cache the reference to the HAL and use a DeathRecipient to keep track
of whether it's still good.

Adds waitForService and waitForDeclaredService to the ServiceManager
Java implementation because they were missing.

Test: atest LightsManagerTest
Test: atest LightsServiceTest
Bug: 152509747
Bug: 154631113
Bug: 154627432
Bug: 154629168
Change-Id: Ife8471f3a7e47b48bb31015ddf40f1d7fef6240f