cc_cmake_snapshot: improve support for AIDL

- link correct libbinder for AIDL modules
- fix building AIDL interfaces with non-empty AidlRoot
- don't silently drop non-existent dependencies

Bug: 302718225
Test: aosp/3081709
      atest binder_sdk_docker_test_clang
Change-Id: I181ef5a994f728f8af19134a6697b065a9aee261