nfsd4: fix use-after-free of 4.1 client on connection loss

Once we drop the lock here there's nothing keeping the client around:
the only lock still held is the xpt_lock on this socket, but this socket
no longer has any connection with the client so there's no way for other
code to know we're still using the client.

The solution is simple: all nfsd4_probe_callback does is set a few
variables and queue some work, so there's no reason we can't just keep
it under the lock.

Signed-off-by: J. Bruce Fields <bfields@redhat.com>