dlm: recover nodes that are removed and re-added

If a node is removed from a lockspace, and then added back before the
dlm is notified of the removal, the dlm will not detect the removal
and won't clear the old state from the node.  This is fixed by using a
list of added nodes so the membership recovery can detect when a newly
added node is already in the member list.

Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>