drbd: Turn no-disk-drain into disk-drain={yes|no}

Change the --no-disk-drain drbdsetup command line option as well as
the no_disk_drain netlink packet.

Signed-off-by: Philipp Reisner <philipp.reisner@linbit.com>
Signed-off-by: Lars Ellenberg <lars.ellenberg@linbit.com>