xfs: avoid usage of struct xfs_dir2_data

In most places we can simply pass around and use the struct xfs_dir2_data_hdr,
which is the first and most important member of struct xfs_dir2_data instead
of the full structure.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Alex Elder <aelder@sgi.com>
Reviewed-by: Dave Chinner <dchinner@redhat.com>