netfilter: xtables: provide invoked family value to extensions

By passing in the family through which extensions were invoked, a bit
of data space can be reclaimed. The "family" member will be added to
the parameter structures and the check functions be adjusted.

Signed-off-by: Jan Engelhardt <jengelh@medozas.de>
Signed-off-by: Patrick McHardy <kaber@trash.net>