isci: replace isci_remote_device completion with event queue

Replace the device completion infrastructure with the controller wide
event queue.  There was a potential for the stop and ready notifications
to corrupt each other, now that cannot happen.

The stop pending flag cannot be used until devices are statically
allocated.  We temporarily need to maintain a completion to handle
waiting for an object that has disappeared, but we can at least stop
scribbling on freed memory.

A future change will also get rid of the "stopping" state as it should
not be exposed to the rest of the driver.

Signed-off-by: Dan Williams <dan.j.williams@intel.com>