[SCSI] libiscsi: fix nop response/reply and session cleanup race

If we are responding to a nop from the target by sending our nop,
and the session is getting torn down, then iscsi_start_session_recovery
could set the conn stop bits while the recv path is sending the nop
response and we will hit the bug ons in __iscsi_conn_send_pdu.

This has us check the state in __iscsi_conn_send_pdu and fail all
incoming mgmt IO if we are  not logged in and if the pdu is not login
related. It also changes the ordering of the setting of conn stop state
bits so they are set after the session state is set (both are set under
the session lock).

Signed-off-by: Mike Christie <michaelc@cs.wisc.edu>
Signed-off-by: James Bottomley <James.Bottomley@HansenPartnership.com>