drbd: Reworked the unconfiguring and thread stopping code

* Moved CONFIG_PENDING and DEVICE_DYING from mdev to tconn.
* Renamed drbd_reconfig_start() and drbd_reconfig_done() to
  conn_reconfig_start() and conn_reconfig_done().

Signed-off-by: Philipp Reisner <philipp.reisner@linbit.com>
Signed-off-by: Lars Ellenberg <lars.ellenberg@linbit.com>