xfs: simplify inode to transaction joining

Currently we need to either call IHOLD or xfs_trans_ihold on an inode when
joining it to a transaction via xfs_trans_ijoin.

This patches instead makes xfs_trans_ijoin usable on it's own by doing
an implicity xfs_trans_ihold, which also allows us to drop the third
argument.  For the case where we want to hold a reference on the inode
a xfs_trans_ijoin_ref wrapper is added which does the IHOLD and marks
the inode for needing an xfs_iput.  In addition to the cleaner interface
to the caller this also simplifies the implementation.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Dave Chinner <dchinner@redhat.com>