fsnotify: use an explicit flag to indicate fsnotify_destroy_mark has been called

Currently fsnotify check is mark->group is NULL to decide if
fsnotify_destroy_mark() has already been called or not.  With the upcoming
rcu work it is a heck of a lot easier to use an explicit flag than worry
about group being set to NULL.

Signed-off-by: Eric Paris <eparis@redhat.com>