[DLM] reject replies to old requests

When recoveries are aborted by other recoveries we can get replies to
status or names requests that we've given up on.  This can cause problems
if we're making another request and receive an old reply.  Add a sequence
number to status/names requests and reject replies that don't match.  A
field already exists for the seq number that's used in other message
types.

Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Steven Whitehouse <swhiteho@redhat.com>