[DLM] fix stopping unstarted recovery

Red Hat BZ 211914

When many nodes are joining a lockspace simultaneously, the dlm gets a
quick sequence of stop/start events, a pair for adding each node.
dlm_controld in user space sends dlm_recoverd in the kernel each stop and
start event.  dlm_controld will sometimes send the stop before
dlm_recoverd has had a chance to take up the previously queued start.  The
stop aborts the processing of the previous start by setting the
RECOVERY_STOP flag.  dlm_recoverd is erroneously clearing this flag and
ignoring the stop/abort if it happens to take up the start after the stop
meant to abort it.  The fix is to check the sequence number that's
incremented for each stop/start before clearing the flag.

Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Steven Whitehouse <swhiteho@redhat.com>