nvme: introduce a controller state machine

Replace the adhoc flags in the PCI driver with a state machine in the
core code.  Based on code from Sagi Grimberg for the Fabrics driver.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>
Acked-by Jon Derrick: <jonathan.derrick@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@fb.com>