right meaning of PARITY_ENABLE_RMW and PARITY_PREFER_RMW

In current handle_stripe_dirtying, the code prefers rmw with
PARITY_ENABLE_RMW; while prefers rcw with PARITY_PREFER_RMW.

This patch reverses this behavior.

Signed-off-by: Song Liu <songliubraving@fb.com>
Signed-off-by: Shaohua Li <shli@fb.com>