netfilter: nf_tables: fix race when create new element in dynset

Packets may race when create the new element in nft_hash_update:
       CPU0                 CPU1
  lookup_fast - fail     lookup_fast - fail
       new - ok             new - ok
     insert - ok         insert - fail(EEXIST)

So when race happened, we reuse the existing element. Otherwise,
these *racing* packets will not be handled properly.

Fixes: 22fe54d5 ("netfilter: nf_tables: add support for dynamic set updates")
Signed-off-by: Liping Zhang <zlpnobody@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>