xen-blkback: fix shutdown race

Introduce a new variable to keep track of the number of in-flight
requests. We need to make sure that when xen_blkif_put is called the
request has already been freed and we can safely free xen_blkif, which
was not the case before.

Signed-off-by: Roger Pau Monné <roger.pau@citrix.com>
Cc: Konrad Rzeszutek Wilk <konrad.wilk@oracle.com>
Cc: David Vrabel <david.vrabel@citrix.com>
Reviewed-by: Boris Ostrovsky <boris.ostrovsky@oracle.com>
Tested-by: Matt Rushton <mrushton@amazon.com>
Reviewed-by: Matt Rushton <mrushton@amazon.com>
Cc: Matt Wilson <msw@amazon.com>
Cc: Ian Campbell <Ian.Campbell@citrix.com>
Signed-off-by: Konrad Rzeszutek Wilk <konrad.wilk@oracle.com>