dm cache: simplify deferred set reference count increments

Factor out inc_and_issue and inc_ds helpers to simplify deferred set
reference count increments.  Also cleanup cache_map to consistently call
cell_defer and inc_ds when the bio is DM_MAPIO_REMAPPED.

No functional change.

Signed-off-by: Joe Thornber <ejt@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: Mike Snitzer <snitzer@redhat.com>