nvme-fabrics: centralize discovery controller defaults

When connecting to the discovery controller we have certain defaults
to observe, so centralize them to avoid inconsistencies due to argument
ordering.

Signed-off-by: Hannes Reinecke <hare@suse.com>
Reviewed-by: James Smart <james.smart@broadcom.com>
Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>