drbd: fix potential deadlock on detach

If we have contention in drbd_al_begin_iod (heavy randon IO),
an administrative request to detach the disk may deadlock
for similar reasons as the recently fixed deadlock if detaching
because of IO-error.

The approach taken here is to either go through the intermediate
cleanup state D_FAILED, or first lock out application io,
don't just go directly to D_DISKLESS.

We need an additional state bit (WAS_IO_ERROR) to distinguish
the -> D_FAILED because of IO-error from other failures.

Sanitize D_ATTACHING -> D_FAILED to D_ATTACHING -> D_DISKLESS.
If only attaching, ldev may be missing still, but would be referenced
from within the after_state_ch for -> D_FAILED, potentially
dereferencing a NULL pointer.

Signed-off-by: Philipp Reisner <philipp.reisner@linbit.com>
Signed-off-by: Lars Ellenberg <lars.ellenberg@linbit.com>