fsnotify: use dget_parent

Use dget_parent instead of opencoding it.  This simplifies the code, but
more importanly prepares for the more complicated locking for a parent
dget in the dcache scale patch series.

It means we do grab a reference to the parent now if need to be watched,
but not with the specified mask.  If this turns out to be a problem
we'll have to revisit it, but for now let's keep as much as possible
dcache internals inside dcache.[ch].

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Signed-off-by: Al Viro <viro@zeniv.linux.org.uk>