IPoIB: Handle P_Key table reordering

SM reconfiguration or failover possibly causes a shuffling of the values
in the P_Key table. Right now, IPoIB only queries for the P_Key index
once when it creates the device QP, and hence there are problems if the
index of a P_Key value changes.  Fix this by using the PKEY_CHANGE event
to trigger a recheck of the P_Key index.

Signed-off-by: Yosef Etigin <yosefe@voltaire.com>
Acked-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@dev.mellanox.co.il>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>