rbd: add barriers near done flag operations

Somehow, I missed this little item in Documentation/atomic_ops.txt:
    *** WARNING: atomic_read() and atomic_set() DO NOT IMPLY BARRIERS! ***

Create and use some helper functions that include the proper memory
barriers for manipulating the done field.

Signed-off-by: Alex Elder <elder@inktank.com>
Reviewed-by: Josh Durgin <josh.durgin@inktank.com>