drbd: Do not BUG() when connection breaks in a special way

When a 'cluster wide' disconnect executes, the result comes back
from the peer, and immediately after that the connection breaks
then _conn_rq_cond() reported back SS_CW_SUCCESS.
Therefore _conn_request_state() calls conn_set_state(), which
has a BUG() in it.
The BUG() is hit because conn_is_valid_transition() does not like
the transaction. Which goes back to is_valid_soft_transition()
returning SS_OUTDATE_WO_CONN.

This fix is to consider an error reported by is_valid_soft_transition()
even when the peer agreed to the transaction.

Signed-off-by: Philipp Reisner <philipp.reisner@linbit.com>
Signed-off-by: Lars Ellenberg <lars.ellenberg@linbit.com>
Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <axboe@fb.com>