vfs: support FS_XFLAG_COWEXTSIZE and get/set of CoW extent size hint

Introduce XFLAGs for the new XFS CoW extent size hint, and actually
plumb the CoW extent size hint into the fsxattr structure.

Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>