IB/hfi1: Cleanup of exp_rcv

The knowledge of the internal workings of the expect receive
is too distributed.

Fix by:
- right size several rcd fields associated with
  expect receive
- making an init entrance to init all the lists
- consolidate all the allocations into an array anchored
  in the rcd

Reviewed-by: Michael J. Ruhl <michael.j.ruhl@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Kaike Wan <kaike.wan@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Mike Marciniszyn <mike.marciniszyn@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Dennis Dalessandro <dennis.dalessandro@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>