btrfs: extent-tree: Use btrfs_ref to refactor btrfs_inc_extent_ref()

Use the new btrfs_ref structure and replace parameter list to clean up
the usage of owner and level to distinguish the extent types.

Signed-off-by: Qu Wenruo <wqu@suse.com>
Reviewed-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>