UPSTREAM: netfilter: nf_tables: drop map element references from preparation phase

commit 628bd3e49cba1c066228e23d71a852c23e26da73 upstream.

set .destroy callback releases the references to other objects in maps.
This is very late and it results in spurious EBUSY errors. Drop refcount
from the preparation phase instead, update set backend not to drop
reference counter from set .destroy path.

Exceptions: NFT_TRANS_PREPARE_ERROR does not require to drop the
reference counter because the transaction abort path releases the map
references for each element since the set is unbound. The abort path
also deals with releasing reference counter for new elements added to
unbound sets.

Bug: 299922216
Fixes: 59105446 ("netfilter: nf_tables: revisit chain/object refcounting from elements")
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>
Signed-off-by: Greg Kroah-Hartman <gregkh@linuxfoundation.org>
(cherry picked from commit 3c7ec098)
Signed-off-by: Lee Jones <joneslee@google.com>
Change-Id: I3fa17ba11bc3dcdb05d4f50eee79357e806581ad