xfs: remove the ip argument to xfs_defer_finish

And instead require callers to explicitly join the inode using
xfs_defer_ijoin.  Also consolidate the defer error handling in
a few places using a goto label.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>