dlm: record full callback state

Change how callbacks are recorded for locks.  Previously, information
about multiple callbacks was combined into a couple of variables that
indicated what the end result should be.  In some situations, we
could not tell from this combined state what the exact sequence of
callbacks were, and would end up either delivering the callbacks in
the wrong order, or suppress redundant callbacks incorrectly.  This
new approach records all the data for each callback, leaving no
uncertainty about what needs to be delivered.

Signed-off-by: David Teigland <teigland@redhat.com>