IB/mlx5: Properly adjust rate limit on QP state transitions

- Add MODIFY_QP_EX CMD to extend modify_qp.
- Rate limit will be updated in the following state transactions: RTR2RTS,
  RTS2RTS. The limit will be removed when SQ is in RST and ERR state.

Signed-off-by: Bodong Wang <bodong@mellanox.com>
Reviewed-by: Matan Barak <matanb@mellanox.com>
Signed-off-by: Leon Romanovsky <leon@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>