ceph: do not confuse stale and dead (unreconnected) caps

We were using the cap_gen to track both stale caps (caps that timed out
due to temporarily losing touch with the mds) and dead caps that did not
reconnect after an MDS failure.  Introduce a recon_gen counter to track
reconnections to restarted MDSs and kill dead caps based on that instead.

Rename gen to cap_gen while we're at it to make it more clear which is
which.

Signed-off-by: Sage Weil <sage@newdream.net>