IB/uverbs: Revise the placement of get/puts on uobject

This wasn't wrong, but the placement of two krefs didn't make any
sense. Follow some simple rules.

- A kref is held inside uobjects_list
- A kref is held inside the IDR
- A kref is held inside file->private
- A stack based kref is passed bettwen alloc_begin and
  alloc_abort/alloc_commit

Any place we destroy one of the above pointers, we stick a put,
or 'move' the kref into another pointer.

The key functions have sensible semantics:
- alloc_uobj fully initializes the common members in uobj, including
  the list
- Get rid of the uverbs_idr_remove_uobj helper since IDR remove
  does require put, but it depends on the situation. Later
  patches will re-consolidate this differently.
- alloc_abort always consumes the passed kref, done in the type
- alloc_commit always consumes the passed kref, done in the type
- rdma_remove_commit_uobject always pairs with a lookup_get

After it is all done the only control flow change is to:
- move a get from alloc_commit_fd_uobject to rdma_alloc_commit_uobject
- add a put to remove_commit_idr_uobject
- Consistenly use rdma_lookup_put in rdma_remove_commit_uobject at
  the right place

Signed-off-by: Jason Gunthorpe <jgg@mellanox.com>