rdma_cm: add rdma_is_consumer_reject() helper function

Return true if the peer consumer application rejected the
connection attempt.

Reviewed-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Signed-off-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Reviewed-by: Bart Van Assche <bart.vanassche@sandisk.com>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>