xfs: use WRITE_ONCE to update if_seq

This adds ordering of the updates and makes sure we always see the if_seq
update before the extent tree is modified.

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>