bpf: add map_alloc_check callback

.map_alloc callbacks contain a number of checks validating user-
-provided map attributes against constraints of a particular map
type.  For offloaded maps we will need to check map attributes
without actually allocating any memory on the host.  Add a new
callback for validating attributes before any memory is allocated.
This callback can be selectively implemented by map types for
sharing code with offloads, or simply to separate the logical
steps of validation and allocation.

Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <jakub.kicinski@netronome.com>
Reviewed-by: Quentin Monnet <quentin.monnet@netronome.com>
Signed-off-by: Daniel Borkmann <daniel@iogearbox.net>