SLOW_WORK: Make slow_work_ops ->get_ref/->put_ref optional

Make the ability for the slow-work facility to take references on a work item
optional as not everyone requires this.

Even the internal slow-work stubs them out, so those can be got rid of too.

Signed-off-by: Jens Axboe <jens.axboe@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: David Howells <dhowells@redhat.com>