SF: Fix a couple of Layer ref count issues

This is an attempt at fixing two reference counting issues for Layers.

The first issue is that since we were holding an sp<IBinder> (really a
reference to a LayerCleaner) inside the layer state for deferred
transactions, there was a possibility that it could end up being the
last strong reference to the LayerCleaner such that when it was
destroyed while applying a non-deferred transaction, it would attempt
to grab the SurfaceFlinger main lock to destroy its Layer. Since this
occurred in the main SurfaceFlinger loop, which was already holding
the lock to process transactions, this would cause a deadlock.

To fix this, the sp<IBinder> inside the layer state was changed to a
wp<IBinder>, only being promoted when it actually needs to be accessed
(i.e., when the deferred transaction is created).

The second issue is that we were promoting and holding a strong
reference to a Layer before calling into SurfaceFlinger to destroy it
on the onLayerDestroyed path (triggered when a LayerCleaner is
destroyed). After returning from the attempt to grab the SurfaceFlinger
main lock, it was possible that this strong reference was the last one
keeping the Layer alive, and destroying it at this point could cause
the HWC2 version of the layer to be destroyed at effectively any point,
even between validate/present.

To fix this, the promotion of the weak Layer reference was moved inside
the critical section where the SurfaceFlinger main lock is held.

Test: Cherry-pick from internal branch
Bug: 30503916
Bug: 30281222
Change-Id: I1c6a271f9a7b5d6eea9a9db61d971f262d0cfe84