RDS: Add GET_MR_FOR_DEST sockopt

RDS currently supports a GET_MR sockopt to establish a
memory region (MR) for a chunk of memory. However, the fastreg
method ties a MR to a particular destination. The GET_MR_FOR_DEST
sockopt allows the remote machine to be specified, and thus
support for fastreg (aka FRWRs).

Note that this patch does *not* do all of this - it simply
implements the new sockopt in terms of the old one, so applications
can begin to use the new sockopt in preparation for cutover to
FRWRs.

Signed-off-by: Andy Grover <andy.grover@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: David S. Miller <davem@davemloft.net>