netfilter: nfnl_cthelper: reject del request if helper obj is in use

We can still delete the ct helper even if it is in use, this will cause
a use-after-free error. In more detail, I mean:
  # nfct helper add ssdp inet udp
  # iptables -t raw -A OUTPUT -p udp -j CT --helper ssdp
  # nfct helper delete ssdp //--> oops, succeed!
  BUG: unable to handle kernel paging request at 000026ca
  IP: 0x26ca
  [...]
  Call Trace:
   ? ipv4_helper+0x62/0x80 [nf_conntrack_ipv4]
   nf_hook_slow+0x21/0xb0
   ip_output+0xe9/0x100
   ? ip_fragment.constprop.54+0xc0/0xc0
   ip_local_out+0x33/0x40
   ip_send_skb+0x16/0x80
   udp_send_skb+0x84/0x240
   udp_sendmsg+0x35d/0xa50

So add reference count to fix this issue, if ct helper is used by
others, reject the delete request.

Apply this patch:
  # nfct helper delete ssdp
  nfct v1.4.3: netlink error: Device or resource busy

Signed-off-by: Liping Zhang <zlpnobody@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>