IB/hfi1: Add support for extended memory management

Advertise and add the capability of handing all aspects of IBTA extended
memory management support in post send.

Reviewed-by: Mike Marciniszyn <mike.marciniszyn@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Dennis Dalessandro <dennis.dalessandro@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Jianxin Xiong <jianxin.xiong@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Dennis Dalessandro <dennis.dalessandro@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>