xen/gntalloc,gntdev: Add unmap notify ioctl

This ioctl allows the users of a shared page to be notified when
the other end exits abnormally.

[v2: updated description in structs]
Signed-off-by: Daniel De Graaf <dgdegra@tycho.nsa.gov>
Signed-off-by: Konrad Rzeszutek Wilk <konrad.wilk@oracle.com>