vhost: replace rcu with mutex

All memory accesses are done under some VQ mutex.
So lock/unlock all VQs is a faster equivalent of synchronize_rcu()
for memory access changes.
Some guests cause a lot of these changes, so it's helpful
to make them faster.

Reported-by: "Gonglei (Arei)" <arei.gonglei@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>