thunderbolt: Add tb_xdomain_find_by_route()

This is needed by the new ICM interface to find xdomains by route string
instead of link and depth.

While there update existing tb_xdomain_find_* functions to use
tb_xdomain_get() instead of open-coding the same.

Signed-off-by: Radion Mirchevsky <radion.mirchevsky@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Mika Westerberg <mika.westerberg@linux.intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Andy Shevchenko <andy.shevchenko@gmail.com>